Which would you rather have?

November 21, 2014

Would you rather have a father to look up to, who hung the moon, who could do anything, who wants to have a relationship with you, who lets you make mistakes and learn from them, who doesn't control every aspect of your life like you're some puppet on a string, who LOVES you....

                                                         or

Would you rather have a father who gives you no choices, who is domineering and inflexible, who cares not about love but about control, who only shows mercy if he feels like it, who stones people when they do wrong, who doesn't want a relationship but your loyalty, who wants not just to surrender, but totally submit to him and his will?

                                                        or

We can flip this around. If you were a parent, would you rather have your child look up to you, think you hung the moon, want to have a relationship with you, who makes mistakes and learns from them, who has some freedom to make choices, who loves you...

                                                        or

Would you rather have your child have no choices, be totally controlled by your will, who has to be controlled, who never receives mercy, who you can stone to death if they make mistakes, who is only loyal to you out of fear and respect, who totally submits to your will?

Maybe I am crazy, but the choice is obvious to me.

What would you do to protect your family?

November 12, 2014

To what lengths are you willing to go to protect those you love? Ask yourself that question, or ask yourself - what is your limit or line in the sand before you resort to drastic or violent means to resolve a situation? The main character in Misguided never got to answer this question because his family was taken from him, and he had no control over the outcome. But what if you knew someone wanted to harm your family? Would you try at all costs to fight for their safety, regardless of your training or lack thereof? Would you try to meet attackers' demands, or would you fight? This is something I think every 'man of the house' at least ponders at some point in their role as father figure or head of the household. I pray to God I never have to take action to answer this question, but trust me, I have thought about it many times. Me personally - I would use all the tricks in the book. I would use my strength, my size, my training, diversions, whatever it takes - to keep my family. So...what would you do to protect yours?

When Have You Been Misguided?

November 8, 2014

Think about a time when you were misguided. I remember a time in college, when a friend - who will remain anonymous - came up on my dorm hall while intoxicated, and my little brother was in town to visit. This friend at the time was cursing like a sailor, and ignoring the fact that my younger sibling was in plain sight. I let my anger get the best of me that day, and let the anger misguide me toward hating that individual during most of my stay at that school. I learned the error of my ways before graduating, but had been misguided by thinking I could be his judge, when really there is only one true judge over us all.